Hi everyone….pls help, I’m going stir crazy!
In March of this year, I got two new kittens. A pedigree Ragdoll, and a ‘sister’ for him, a little rescue tabby.
Having homed strays and adopted rescue cats before, I felt I was doing my bit by homing her (as opposed to getting a 2nd pedigree), and giving her a ‘second chance’.
I KNOW it’s only been two months..but the little girl is breaking my heart…I just CANNOT bond with her. Her history was that she was previously homed (adopted as a tiny kitten, then returned, apparently because owners couldn’t cope with her/realised they didn’t want a cat, etc…) I then came in, and got her at 6months of age…..
Having done everything I can, eg. using Feliway products, following behavioural advice on the Feline Advisory Bureau website etc…..I just cannot help feeling let down and cheated by this little mog.
How long is a fair time to allow her to come out of her shell? 6 months, a year? Because it honestly is like I don’t have a 2nd cat.
She only eats, plays with her brother ( way out of arms reach of us) and uses her tray. No interaction with us whatsoever. And when we can approach her, she scurries away under the bed, or cowers in fear… If we do manage to hold her…God, the panic to escape!!! Is this why she was returned? I think she either had zero human interaction in her early days, or she was hit….badly, and often. On an hourly basis, I try remind myself of this, and sympathise with her….but also, just looking at her, fills me with resentment, and I want to give her back…….
I know rescue cats often do come round, but if I’m very honest, I don’t know if I have the energy, patience and time, that I once did. My little Ragdoll brings me such incredible joy, and I question whether or not I should sacrifice MY sanity &happiness to accomodate a cat with evident mental health issues. I know this sounds harsh, and I apologise…but it’s honestly how I feel. Thinking about it brings me to tears…
All I’ve ever wanted was two, really chilled, happy babies that would love their momma….and we’d all be content. I thought I could have that by getting them as kittens (I previously had adopted an 11yr old rescue mog…who had a horrific past…and he came round quicker than my little girl is now!!)
I really don’t know what to do, and would appreciate your thoughts. No snide comments either please…as this, as I’ve said, is causing me some anguish… Thanks so much
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